So this is a new year and home school needs to be taking more time and effort as Ruby is a big first grader. She's doing mostly 2nd grade curriculum, as amazingly enough, much of the 1st grade curriculum is still just moving beyond reading readiness, and Ruby is beyond that.
So we started out using
this curriculum. For some reason, my super anxious learner was totally turned off by it. I can't articulate why, but it was drudgery. I knew after the first few weeks that we couldn't use it as our base curriculum, so we switched to The Well Trained Mind curriculum, First Language Lessons, found
here.
Both curricula follow roughly the same concepts in the same order, so I will still be able to utilize some of the student pages and children's lit of the LLATL course while following FLL.
I guess curriculum choice isn't that interesting to most of my few readers, so I'll spare you the rest of the specifics.
I've had the opportunity to defend my choice to home school my children recently, and I always come away from those conversations more convinced that I am doing the right thing (insert "for my family here" if you think I'm trying to say that you should be doing the same thing as I am doing). I don't think that home school is for everyone, it's a personal decision, and I don't stand in the way of public, private or whatever other options people choose for their family.
That said, home school is right for my family, today! I can't speak for a year from now or five years from now, as life could bring many unknown and unanticipated scenarios that could make home schooling impossible. At this point, with my limited knowledge of what the future holds for my family, I am planning to home school my kids to college (which will be free to them when they are 16 and they should be done with their A.A. for free before going to college).
So some interesting thoughts have come up as a result of the conversations I've had with people about my choice. Always...the issue of socialization...to me, the most ridiculous argument for the necessity of public school EVER.
I usually completely ignore the bait that people lay down about socialization because it's so crazy to me that you would ever say that every child in public school is socially well adjusted or that home schooled children are socially backwards. I went to public school, and there were plenty of awkward children there! To boot, there was social hierarchy among very young children, name calling, physical fighting, fussing over name brands. I actually had to make a conscious decision as an adult to undo much of the high school social survival techniques I'd acquired during my years in public school.
One question rose to the top for me in my recent debate with a friend of mine who works in public schools. The question wasn't asked as a part of our conversation, it was the question on which hinged our entire disagreement, "is a person done socially developing/maturing by the age of 18 or the day he/she graduates from high school?"
She was pretty much saying that children who are at home in their cushy, "every body loves me" environment their whole lives missed the chance to ever confront rejection or controversy or diversity or confrontation.
I have to say that not only do
I wholly disagree with the notion that we are finished beings by the age of 18, but so does relevant research. Let's put research aside for a moment though...
If at the age of 32 I were to think about some of the most pivotal experiences I've had that have shaped who I am today, I'm going to have to say that being made fun of for having big boobs in the fifth grade does not rival the lessons I learned as a 21 year old missionary with a companion who hated me. My maturity at 21 did not allow me to become small because one person (really, she's the only one, lol) didn't like me! At 21, I had to think long and hard about why in my future I would never want to presume that my opinion of another human being should ever really matter to that person. I learned that it doesn't feel good to be given a negative (not constructive)evaluation by a peer, and not to let it define me at all. This experience of peer rejection was entirely different as a 21 year old than as a 10 year old, and I'd say more worthwhile and productive. I don't know if I'd say that I gained anything from my fifth grade experience, because immaturity didn't allow me to do anything but want to be a different person entirely to please my peers. This is one example of MANY.
My point is that there are many, many formative years from which we learn socially and we experience rejection or social hardship. We could be fired, have a spouse betray us, have a child hate us, lose a loved one...and those things can change and mold us at any stage in our lives. Being made fun of, not making the basketball team, not getting asked to prom or being the chesty girl in 5th grade aren't necessarily essential to our adult life, as we have our adult life to continue to process self love and the meaning of success.
I'm not saying that those experiences in public school ruin who you are either, I'm just saying that you aren't a finished person the day you graduate from high school, and therefore if you don't experience the hard cold world until you are the young age of 18 years old (which is really presumptuous to say that a homeschooled child won't experience rejection or squabbles with peers...we aren't holed up in the house all day!), you aren't going to be a basket case when things don't go your way.
So now, the research...there are many things you can read about comparisons of homeschooled students and public schooled students, but the one that applies to this subject focuses more on what happens to these two groups once put in a college scene. Dr. Laura (generally I'm not a fan, but she presents the findings of research in this blog post and it's more interesting to read than the actual study, which is only available in summary unless you pay money) presents the research
here.
Basically, students entering college scored virtually the same, with one exception. Children educated in the public schools had more anxiety about classes, grades, social pressures than homeschooled children. Otherwise, this study on social transition from high school to college found the two groups congruent.
So does that make a huge argument in favor of homeschooling? No! However, if at the very least it could make a case for people to back off the socialization argument as a reason to oppose homeschooling, mission accomplished! I promise, I have the well being of my children as a top priority...just like you do yours.